Confrontation in Japan

I was talking to my friend Fara about confrontation in Japan. In America, whoever is the loudest is the winner of the confrontation and the one that is getting yelled at is looked upon as being weak and meer and very easy to pick on. IF you're in public and someone is confronting you you don't say anything because if you don't then you're looked at as the winner of the battle. Confrontation is a huge no no in Japan esp. in public. If you confront somebody in Japan in public, you're looked as being crazy. I remember when this lady wanted to start something with me because she thought I was in the military. Because I'm black she assumed I killed people and that I was in the military. Well, she was old and crazy because we were in Nishinomiya. The military bases are in Yokohama and Okinawa. I pretty much just walked away. I felt bad because I should of confronted her but my dad told me to be silent and plus i don't have the advantage of speaking japanese. So my dad was right I did do the right thing. So when in Japan, if someone picks a fight with you just ignore and walk away! Because in the 3rd person's eye you won the battle!